Inquire Desire Inspire

... checking the kinks ...

the following playlist represents my (J) choices for the nice checklist at http://sinsual-by-design.net/thelist.html:

EXPERIENCE      Willingness      Yes/No

*Age Play*      sounds interesting maybe
*Anal Sex*       hard to say
*Anal Plugs-small*  Yes
*Anal Plugs-Large*  hard to say
*Anal Plug-public, under clothes* Yes
*Animal Roles*     probably not
*Arm and Leg Sleeves (armbinders)* what’s that ;)
*Aromas*  aromas?
*Asphyxiation* No
*Auctioned for Charity* ?!
*Bathroom use control*     don’t mind, though is it hot?
*Bestiality* No
*Beating (soft)* Yes
*Beating (Hard)* Don’t know
*Blindfolds*     Yes
*Being Serviced (sexual)* Yes
*Being Bitten*     Yes: how strong: no idea ;)
*Breast Bondage* No
*Breath Control* can’t imagine
*Branding* Probably not
*Boot Worship* Yes
*Bondage (light)* Yes
*Bondage (heavy)* Yes
*Bondage (multi-day)* probably not
*Bondage-Public, under clothing* Yes
*Breast Whipping* No
*Cages-locked inside of* Hm, don’t know, sounds not too exciting
*Caning* Yes
*Cells/Closets (locked inside of)* yes(?)
*Chains* Yes
*Chasity Belts* Yes
*Chauffeuring*     Yes
*Choking*     hm, can’t imagine how that would feel
*Clothespins* what’s that supposed to mean?
*Cock Worship*     Yes
*Collars- Worn in Private* Yes
*Collars-Worn in Public* hard to say
*Competions (with other subs)*     Yes
*Cuffs (metal)* Yes
*Cutting* No
*Diapers* I guess no
*Dildoes* Yes
*Electricity* No
*Enemas* No
*Enforced Chasity* Yes
*Erotic Dance (public)* No
*Examinations (Physical)* No
*Exercise (forced/required)* ?
*Exhibitionism (friends)* Yes
*Exhibitionism (strangers)* Depends on the scenario
*Eye Contact Restrictions* No
*Face Slapping* Yes
*Fantasy Rape*     Yes
*Fantasy gang-rape*     Yes
*Fear (being scared)* No
*Fisting (anal)* No
*Following Orders* Yes
*Foot Worship*     Yes
*Forced Bedwetting* No
*Forced Dressing* Yes
*Forced Homosexuality* Maybe
*Forced Masturbation*     Yes
*Forced Nudity (private)* Yes
*Forced Nudity (around others)*    Yes
*Forced Servitude* Yes
*Gags* Maybe
*Given away to another Dominant (temp.)* Yes
*Given away to another Dominant (permanent)* No
*Golden Showers* No
*Gun Play* No
*Hairbrush Spankings* No
*Hair Pulling* Yes, probably
*Hand Jobs (giving)* Yes
*hand Jobs (receiving)* Yes
*Harems (serving with other sub or subs)* Yes
*Head (giving fellatio)* Yes
*High Heel Worship*     Yes
*Hot Oils (on genitals)* probably not
*Hot Waxing* probably not
*Housework (doing)* Yes
*Human Puppy Dog* No
*Humiliation (private)* Yes
*Humiliation (public)* depends where
*Hypnotism* No
*Ice Cubes* Yes
*Immobilization* Yes
*Injections* No
*Intricate (Japanese) Rope Bondage* Yes, not too extreme though
*Interrogations* Yes
*Kidnapping* Yes
*Kneeling* ?
*Knife Play* dangerous ;)
*Lectures for Misbehaving* Yes
*Lingerire (wearing)* Yes
*Manacles and Irons* Yes
*Massage (giving)* yes
*Massage (receiving)* No
*Medical Scenes* hm, depends
*Modeling for Erotic Photos* Yes
*Nipple Clamps* No
*Nipple Weights* No
*Oral/anal Play (rimming)* No
*Over-the-knee spanking* maybe not really exciting, wouldn’t mind though
*Orgasm Denial* Yes
*Orgasm Control* Yes
*Outdoor Scenes* Yes
*Outdoor sex* Yes
*Pain (severe)* No
*Pain (mild)* Yes, though that depends
*Phone Sex (serving the Dominant)* Yes
*Phone Sex (serving Dominants friends)* Yes
*Phone Sex (commercially)* No
*Piercing* No
*Public Exposure* Depends
*Punishment Scene* Yes
*Pussy Worship* Yes
*Rubber/latex Clothing* Yes
*Rope* Yes
*Scratching (giving)* No
*Scratching (receiving)* Yes, not too hard though
*Serving* Yes
*Serving as Art* Yes, though ?!
*Serving as Ashtray* No
*Serving as Furniture* Yes
*Serving as a Maid* Yes
*Serving as a toilet (urine)* wtf, but yes
*Serving as a toilet (feces)* hell no ;)
*Serving as a waitress* Yes
*Serving Orally (sexual)* Yes
*Serving other Doms* Yes
*Sexual Deprivation (short term)* Yes
*Sexual Deprivation (long term)* yes, but not toooo long
*Shaving (body hair)* yes
*Shaving (head hair)* no
*Skinny Dipping* Yes
*Sleep Deprivation* No
*Slutty Clothing (Public)* depends where
*Slutty Clothing (Private)* Yes
*Spanking* Yes
*Spandex Clothing* Yes
*Speech restrictions (when, what)* Yes
*Speculums* No
*Spreader Bars* Yes
*Standing in Corner* Not very exciting, but ok
*Straight Jackets* No    
*Strap-on Dildos (sucking on)* Yes
*Strap-on Dildos (penetraed by)* Maybe
*Supplying new partners for Dominant* Yes
*Swallowing semen* Yes
*Swallowing urine* No
*Swallowing feces* No
*Swapping (with one other couple)* Yes
*Swinging (multiple couples)* Yes
*Tattoing* hema-like yes
*Teasing* yes
*Tickling* maybe
*Topless Beaches* yes
*Uniforms* yes
*Including Others* yes
*Verbal Humiliation* Yes
*Vibrator on genitals* Yes
*Voyeurism (watching others)* Yes
*Voyeurism (your Dominant w/others)* Yes
*Video (watching others)* Yes
*Video (recordings of you)* Yes
*Waxing Hair Removal* no
*Wearing Symbolic Jewelry* sounds boring ;)
*Weight Loss/Gain* no
*Whipping* Yes
*Wooden Paddles* No
*Wrestling* Sounds boring

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inquire-desire-inspire:

i want you to pick up one of my panties tonight and go in them to bed. i might come to bed later on and i want to find you in them. you are not allowed to masturbate before that!

;)

I picked out some transparent, very hot pants from L’s cupboard and after showering I dressed them on. They felt really great on the skin: I got already in the bathroom a semi-erection and it was so sexy to feel my dick growing and pressing against the soft material of the panties. It’s even nicer to touch myself over the panties and to feel some pre-cum sticking against them from inside. Not much after I went to bed L came and she began to touch me over and in the panties, and it felt just unbelievable. It was great to sense how turned on also she was by it. Soon we got enough turned on to have some real sex. I kept the panties on while we were fucking and while she went down on me. It was a very interesting feeling: I was clearly bending my usual gender role, but without falling in any cliche (like sissification). It was more that by bending my gender I actually found well and confirmed in it: since what is most uncomfortable being man is the little playfulness it allows in our culture. By bending these borders one can create one’s own space which I feel is not possible in the little space the cultural male stereotype leaves open which itself feels more like the intersection of everything boring and grey. It is not that this is the way I permanently want to be, but it feels great to have the freedom to be like that and have fun changing from time to time. Females have this changes on an every day bases by for instance having the choice between dressing a skirt or jeans, just depending on the mood. If my identity is also gender identity then I feel like emancipation is also breaking free from this role-restriction. It’s an important part of self-development, liberation and it’s great fun.

It is however not an easy step: I was a bit ashamed (in front of myself and L) in the beginning and also (and even more) in the end when my sexual tension was gone. I even undressed the panties, although I think it would feel great to sleep in them. Let’s see, next time maybe :)

Altogether it was a great experience and I hope to receive such a task again :)

Masturbation diary

Touching yourself has itself a touch of privacy, maybe even of a hidden secret. Exposing your little dirty secrets to somebody you’re really turned on by is itself a big turn on, isn’t it?

The whole thing gets even more interesting if you’re touching yourself and thinking of somebody else and not your partner. What now if your partner would find out, what now if you would have to report for one week every masturbation to your partner: the time and the way and the imaginations you had… This dare is about writting a little diary of dirty thoughts and masturbation:

• everytime you touch yourself, you have to make an entry and write down some details
• what has to be mentioned is especially what you imagined, or in case you watch a movie or some pics, a screenshot has to be posted
• in case some equipment was used, it should be mentioned as well
• of course it is interesting where it happened
• the time period should be about one week
• (op) a picture of the result/scenario has to be attached
• the diary could be realized in form of another tumblr

I think I’d like to be “tasked”, well if you like the idea of course.

• However, it would be even more interesting and exciting if one of your cyber-buddies would have to perform the same task during the same time period.

Reading in the park

Nothing is more alluring then a beautiful girl sitting alone in the park reading a book. All guys secretly watch her, even if they are there with their girlfriends. It gets even more exciting if she from time to time looks back at you and you don’t know if she’s just thinking or really looking at you. Most exciting is if you get more and more the impression that she might flirt with you.

For the girl it is of course also very exciting, as she knows that she is in the center of all attention, even more so if she’s dressed in a sexy way, or if she has hot underwear under which nobody knows.

Next time when it’s really nice weather and you have some time or can devote some time for reading I want you to go to the park and read there. You should of course dress pretty attractive.

• If there is some pretty guy you have to watch him from time to time.
• If you really go for a flirt, that would be even better.
• Dressing some hot underwear spices things up even more, for instance a string tanga, maybe even combined with suspender and stockings, :)

Outdoor flashing

To make erotic shots is very nice, but isn’t it even more exciting to do it outdoors? Sure, there is a little bit of a danger to be caught. On the other hand, doesn’t make this eventuality the whole enterprise even more interesting? But to lift the skirt and show your pretty butt for a second at some silent corner in the park doesn’t cause too much risk, does it?

• (op) A park might be an ideal place, cause there are many silent places and the danger of being caught can be reduced very much.
• (op) Going for a walk in a long coat is harmless, though if there is nothing under it, it’s very exciting and offers lots of options for hot shots ;)

L: yes yes yes, we’re gonna do this, babe! :D also in a big supermarket or in a dressing room while trying new clothes ;)

Classy and naughty shopping

Isn’t it very exciting to have some secrets, especially dirty and classy ones? To have this “if they would only know”-thought. In this case your secret is the you dress some super hot stockings with suspender under your skirt while you go shopping. You will feel super sexy, especially when you pay at this young guy and think about how horny he would get if he would only know your little secret. It will feel very exciting to feel the suspender touching your skin while walking and to be afraid that a sudden strong wind blow would uncover your secret or that the top of the stockings look out of the skirt.

• (op) you also sit down for a coffee somewhere
• (op) you begin a flirt in that outfit

L: oooooooooooh i love this!!! :D

You're in my pants, the whole day

This is a funny one ;)

Pictures represent, so much that it is reported of various indigines to be afraid of them cause they see something like ghosts in them. A sign reaches all the way though to what it signifies … booo.

So, let’s say you’re into somebody and really wanna have a hot time with him/her, but it’s somehow not possible. You can’t let her/him into your pants? Maybe, maybe not! What about caring a small picture of him/her in your pants. There are two options:

• you convince somebody (one of your cyber buddies) to carry a picture of you in his pants all day long, or
• you carry a picture of somebody in your pants all day long

It would definitely be a turn-on to think that somebody(’s picture) is so near your sweet spot all day long or that you(r picture) is so near to somebody’s sweet spot whole day long.

[L]: hahaha, i like this a lot! :D sweet and tempting :D

Supervision

I’d like that you “lock me” in our bedroom. You supervise me with the webcam and command me to do things. You don’t have to watch me all the time, only rarely to see if I do things you tell me. The demands can be as follows:

• (es) to undress
• (op) to dress certain clothes
• (es) to watch a particular movie / picture (real or imaginative) and touch myself
• (op) to lick my pre-cum
• (op) to wipe my pre-cum with a fruit from my penis and eat the fruit
• (op) to wipe my cum on a banana and eat it (have no idea if I could do that, but sounds exciting - a bit of it? ;))
• (op) to handcuff myself to the bed
• (op) a good occasion is for instance when you’re chatting with one of your hotties
• (op) if you have a hot chat with him you can post my parts of your dialoge and I have to touch myself to it

Fellatio

I love the following pic, but I think it would look even much better with your ass.

• (op) I’d like to make a similar pic with you.
• (op) I’d like that you make a similar pic with somebody else.
• (op) I’d like to be taken like that by you.
• (op) I’d like that you take somebody else like that.

Going out without pant(ie)s

It’s very exciting to go out without panties.

• To be surprised by the partner:
  • e.g. he/she wispers suddenly in the ear that he/she has nothing under
• To be dared to do so.
• [J] dares L to go out with him in a mini-skirt with no panties under.