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Cuckold types

I found the following list of cuckold types (http://www.zenfetish.com/2008/09/06/cuckold-types/, http://www.cuckyboy.com/) which is surprisingly rich and interesting. Let’s see in what category I fall and reflect on the issue a bit on the fly and in the end again :)

* The cuckold may have come to the lifestyle by finding out his wife is cheating

Hm, not really. Although on second thought: what brought me at all to the quite liberal approach towards what the mainstream calls cheating is that my ex-girlfriend one evening told me that she ” nearly” seduced a guy and thus nearly had sex with him. After thinking about it for a while I told her that this is very much a freedom I’d like her to have whenever she feels like it. I still didn’t think back then that I could enjoy in that, though this experience somehow opened the door to cuckolding for my mind-set.

* There is a certain aspect of deviance by the cheating wife
* The cuckold can seem almost tortured by the cheating wife’s behavior

Hm, being tortured, there is a kind of dialectic turn in being turtured and jealous while thinking about her being with the other guy, since, if it is a turture, it creates a sweet and very hot tension which is very enjoyable. I think it might be a similar turn which masochistic people have when confronted with pain. It can turn into something valueable, enjoyable and something you look forward to.
* The cuckolds say they enjoy it but if you really read what they’re saying in their posts or comments it’s almost as though they do not have choice and they lack of choice excites them

The lack of choice seems more to be a part of what excites them. I wouldn’t reduce it to it.
* At some level the cuckold does enjoy the emotional torture, much like a masochist

Oh yes, that’s what I commented above as well :)
* They enjoy the humiliation aspects of cuckolding (wimp factor, knows his place, small penis)

I certainly would enjoy my partner being with guys who are in some aspects preferable or simply different from me. Furthermore it is a turn-on to hear her being passionate about these characteristics in talks with me. This of course includes (and if only indirectly) the fact that I do not have these characteristics. I can enjoy in that a lot. I would also enjoy in her telling me that I have a small dick and that she is in need of a bigger one from time to time or similar things. There is a kind of humiliation which is very sexy. It might be a kind of self-irony which people can develop if they have enough self-esteem to look in the mirror and see their strengths as well as their shortcomings and think that the overall picture is very nice, so why not smiling and laughing about the “shortcomings”, as they are not that important after all.
* The slut wife sometimes includes him and sometimes she ignores him

The secret factor of being ignored is sexy but only if there is enough trust and if the primary relationship works well enough. I might be very sexy to hear about certain very spicy fact, say only half a year later. It’s a part of not being completely in control of the situation and let your own fantasy make up the rest which is in itself pretty spicy.
* The cuckolds tend to be more submissive in all aspects of the relationship and the hotwives tend to be more dominant in all aspects

Hard to say for me: I definitely could imagine myself in a very submissive role with another girl. With my partner however it might be too much to expand the submission in every day matters. The problem is to draw the line between the game and the serious parts of the relationship. On the other hand it might be pretty hot to have submission days where the borders are clearly drawn and also to have safe-words in case I need to break out of the submission.
* The cheating wife may practice sexual denial with the cuckold

This is definitely an aspect I like a lot about it. Not being allowed to cum in her for days and getting so hard all the time is a incredible hot feeling and tension. I really enjoy to be in chasity for days and lying with a hard-on beside her for nights. This combined with her at the same time being with other man would be definitely something I’d like.

* Came to the lifestyle after talking the wife into it

That’s also the case for me, since my partner was way more conservative about sexual issues than me in the beginning of the relationship and the liberal hints and discussions where mainly motivated by me for some time.
* They love their hotwives having sex with other men

Of course, though I do not see why type one men wouldn’t do so. Only if we really think they only like the lack of control.
* Their hot wives enjoy teasing the cuckold and letting him be a part of it somehow (the cuckold is not necessarily always physically present with her and her lover, but she makes sure that he is a part of it by calling or telling him all the details when she arrives home)

This is fortunately true in our case: I wouldn’t like that *everything* happens behind my back, although as I mentioned above, some stuff may happen behind my back and the feeling to not know every single detail leaves some space for imagination. In general it is very very hot to be part of her flirtings and to know whats going on and with whom she has a chat at this and that point. It’s like we both play some naughty and hot games and nobody is excluded.
* The cuckold and the slut wife are open about all aspects of the wives sexual activity, no deviance
* The cuckold enjoys the hotwife’s sluttieness and her sexual power over him

I definitely enjoy if she’s very slutty from time to time. I however also enjoy that she is much more than that, that is her being for instance very smart and classy. It’s no cheap kind of sluttiness, although I like the sluttiness to be of a high degree especially when she flirts with other guys ;) I enjoy her sexual power over me, on the other hand I am not only submissive but I enjoy differrent facettes of who powers whom. Mostly we are clearly equal.
* The cuckold tends to have more desire and passion for his wife after she has been with another man

That is somehow true and it’s strange to admit this. I of course doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t have desire and passion for her if she was not with other men. I think she is extremely attractive. Also I know that she is desired by other men and thus I wouldn’t be in need of a physical proof. So it doesn’t boost my self-esteem in that sense. It is not easy for me to localize the reason why the desire increases after her encounters or flirts. She is definitely extremely sexy when she is flirty with other men and the image of her fucking with other guys makes her extremely sexy as well. I always liked wild girls who go for what they like. Maybe it’s that. But there is even more to it I think: I like the thought of her bringing home traces of the other guy. It’s maybe the sexiness of the guy she is with which is with her after encounters and which I sense and in which I also enjoy. For instance the thought of traces of semen of the other guy being left on her body and I can lick some off or taste some while I kiss her is very sexy. I would even enjoy parts of his clothes on her, as for instance if she would sleep in his boxers from time to time. It’s a kind of semi-threesome then ;)
* These cuckolds tend to be only sexually submissive

I am also, though not exclusively.
* In all other aspects of the relationship the cuckold and wife are equal partners

I commented on that already: that’s our status quo.

* The cuckold enjoys feminization brought on by the hotwife

Yes, definitely from time to time. I’m still a bit ashamed of that, but I definitly enjoy being dressed in female panties or stockings from time to time. And I love her to make me dress some stuff like that as little tasks during the day or before sleeping. It’s not that I need that all the time, but from time to time this is very sexy.

* The cuckold enjoys the forced femimization by the hot wife, made to wear panties, make up, bras, etc.

Bras do not sound sexy to me ;) The other stuff surely is sexy ;)

* The cuckold enjoys the humiliation of not being man enough to handle his wife

Interesting, didn’t really think about that yet. I would rather see it from the other side: I like that thought that she is sexually demanding enough and hedonistic enough to ask for more then a conservative “being stuck to one sexual partner”. There’s to much sweeties out there not to try one from time to time. I am pretty good chocolate, though why not go for ice-cream and cookies and cakes … I like girls who do not let conservative values restrict their natural libido. It’s something about being revolutionary and honest about emotions which makes her very sexy.

* The slut wife tends to be dominate in all aspects of the relationship
* The hot wife may or may not include the cuckold in her sexual activities
* The cuckold has definite bi-sexual tendencies

Slight ones. I enjoy of thinking about being with her and a guy. To have sex with a guy along is however a thought which keeps me cold. And, yes, I don’t think I oppress my bi-sexuality. I like cock, if there’s a hot girl near to take use of it ;)
* The hot wife may use a strap on dildo on her fem cuck

I guess I wouldn’t like it. At least not her doing this, another girl maybe, or a guy in a threesome.
* The hot wife may include the lover in using the cuck for her pleasure (oral and anal)

Yes, definitely a hot thought. Though only if I can trust the lover enough.

* Cuckolds tend to be highly educated and rely on their minds a lot

True in my case.
* The difference between a strict hot wife relationship and a cuckold relationship is in the cuckold relationship the hotwife is always in sexual control, she is the one who makes the decisions about other men and often controls the sexual behavior of the cuckold. In a strictly Hot Wife relationship the husband will be in control of who the Hot Wife meets and fucks.

Hm, in our case this is more balanced, since she usually includes me a lot while flirting with guys. Though I never choose guys for her.
* Cuckolds tend to enjoy masturbation and fantasy

I definitely do. And I always think about ways to spice up our sexual lifes by little games and tasks. And I’d like to include others way more in this, but cannot find anybody ;)
* Cuckolds are not necessarily very physical in their love making skills and tend to be more mental and emotional

Hm, I think I am a good lover, also physically. On the other hand, I am pretty mental and making love is way more interesting if there is some depth to it, like being part of a game.
* Cuckolds are not easily turned on by just the physical aspects of sex itself, they tend to need more mental, visual and aural stimulation then the average male

Yes, I commented already on that. Though I am also very physical/visual. I get very easily aroused. Altogether, the two things do not exclude each other.

* Cuckolds may have less testosterone than say a Bull who can get excited by physical aspects of sex
* The act of being cuckolded is appealing because of its mental and emotional aspects and it is often long and drawn out over a period of time with the wife dating and such

Yes, this fits definitely.
* The cuckold loves feeling cucky angst for hours upon hours until the slut wife comes home and allows relief

Also true.
* The cuckold my be fixated on the idea of his penis is not enough to pleasure his wife and take pleasure from her getting a larger cock for her lover

I commented on that already above.
* It is very difficult to define a cuckold relationship, we are all different and ultimately if you call yourself a cuckold and your hotwife has sexual activity with other men and she controls it, then I guess you are one

That summarizes pretty much my comments I guess, since I seem not to clearly fall in any of the types, but rather in all of them a bit. The types are very interesting since the high intersection of my passions and interests with things listed is indeed remarkable and shows that the list is pretty good and thoughtful.

There are other aspects of cuckolding which I like.

For instance it deconstructs the traditional picture of the male stereotype: the guy who is in control of his wife and who owns her in a sense. If she is allowed to look sexy to other men then only in order to make them jealous and/or to show off (like with their new sportscar). He may look after the girls when sitting in a cafe but she is strictly forbidden to make eyes to a bypassing cute guy, etc.

A cuckold has a different picture: he is glad to be with his partner cause he loves her. He loves her indeed so much that he doesn’t want her to be in a cage. He is very sympathetic with the thought of sharing her beauty with the world and the thought of her passions being realized on all possible ways. This is part of his love to her. Since he loves her in her very being and blossoming he can deeply enjoy in the thought of her realizing and blooming all over the place. He doesn’t show off with her wife, he doesn’t even need to. The self-esteem of a cuckold is not restricted and endangered by this liberal approach, the liberal approach is rather a proof of his masculinity. He really “stands his man”. That of course makes him very attractive to her.

There are other things I like about it, but this will be another post.